Every Wife Led Domestic Discipline Marriage is different. In ours, what earns me a spanking is a wide range of things. Most of my spankings are earned by doing something she has made clear is unacceptable. Some spankings are because I did not do something I was told to do. And then some spankings are earned by not reaching a goal she has set for me.

Unacceptable Behavior

Spankings I get because I have done something that my wife has made clear is unacceptable are the most severe. Since I have behaved in a way I know I am not allowed, she really makes a point to show me how unhappy she is. More swats with the paddle and she also puts a little extra into her swing.

The absolute worst things I can do are be dismissive of something she says or respond disrespectfully to her (or anything else that hurts her feelings). When she first started laying out her rules for me, this was on the top. I have a tendency to get really frustrated at times and am prone to being short and dismissive.

Procrastination

One problem that has followed me through my entire life is procrastination. I have a huge tendency to deprioritize things I don’t want to do. It got me in a lot of trouble in high school and pretty much ever since. I put things off until I forget about them even knowing I will be spanked when she checks to see if it is done. No amount of tears seems to be able to change that about me.

This is probably the only spanking reason that has a bit of gray area to it. It isn’t a clear cut sometimes due to timing and circumstances. For example, one of my rules is to walk our dog at least twice a week. One of my usual days to walk him is Sunday, which is the end of the week for this rule. I had walked him earlier in the week and had an appointment scheduled on Sunday to meet a contractor at a property we were purchasing. The appointment was set for a specific time, so I was giving myself about 45 minutes to allow him to stop and sniff everything on the way.

Our dog is about 90 lbs and very difficult to force to do anything. About 15 minutes before I was planning on leaving, the contractor messaged and said he was at the property. Because he was an hour early and waiting, I decided to leave the dog home and just run to the appointment. Due to the heat of the day and the rest of the day’s schedule, I was unable to get our dog out for his second walk and thankfully my wife was understanding and allowed me to make it up by walking him and extra morning the next week.

Goals

My wife will set goals for me from time to time. When she does, she expects me to reach those goals without exception and without discussion.

The biggest one she has set for me is weight loss. We have agreed upon a goal weight, which I am currently about 50 lbs away from. Her expectation is that I lose 3 lbs a week until I get to my goal and then maintain my weight without going over 203 lbs. If I lose 2.9 lbs for the week, I am getting a spanking. If I happen to gain weight, I get a severe spanking.